Do you want to improve your social dancing*?  Do you want to feel a closer connection to yourself and your own movement?  Do you want to practice leading and following both? Hint: answering ‘yes’ to these questions will make you a better dancer, or at least give you an opportunity to practice your dancing in a different way.

“What makes up a Dancing 4 Connection event?” you may ask and that is a very good question! Keep reading to find out 🙂

Consent: Connection, real connection, can only happen if people are interacting with consent. Consent and dance etiquette are rarely discussed, especially in social dancing, although there are a lot of things people just “know” or pick up through trial and error. Social dancing, like any other close physical activity, can have an open, healthy culture or a toxic, predatory culture, but open healthy cultures don’t happen by accident – they are cultivated and cared for by everyone involved.

If you are attending a Dancing 4 Connection event, we will start with a conversation about consent and dance etiquette (articles on consent in social dance here, here, and here) and everyone is invited to try both leading and following (more about that here).

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Bachata, salsa, and merengue: These three social dances are usually referred to as ‘Latin’ dances, although they are influenced by music and movement from Puerto Rico, the Dominican Republic, Cuba, Mexico, Columbia, Jamaica, and the rest of North and South America (and around the world). The lead and follow roles in these dances, at least in the US, can be closely associated with gender (i.e. men/masc leads, women/femme follows). I find that assigning gender to a particular set of movements limits our own thinking about how we can dance, and who we can dance with.

BOO to that!!!

When I teach any of these dances, my expectation is that everyone will at least try both leading and following a few times. This also helps reduce the number of people standing around waiting for someone to ask them to dance, which is incredibly frustrating when you just want to move! Now everyone knows at least enough to lead and follow a simple set of steps.

If you haven’t seen bachata before, here are some great examples (some social, some performance). I’ve included a number of videos of gender-neutral or same sex dancers (because we don’t see them often): (the bachata video that started it all!) (social bachata playlist)

Queer Afro Latin Dance Festival IG:


Queer Dance Club (a Russian community):

Queer Latin Dance LA:

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Blues and Fusion: Combining elements of tango, swing, movement improv, and the groovy pulse of a wide range of musical flavors, come learn how to connect and communicate with a dance partner on an entirely different level.  To see a sample, check out this gorgeous demo from the Seattle Fusion Festival a few years back:

There is a great library of movement and different styles of blues at, and an overview of the dance itself at and here:

*Note that Dancing 4 Connection is focused on social dancing, not competition or performance. My interest is in how we connect with each other spontaneously, and musically, not so much about patterns and technique. Patterns and technique are elements of the language we use to communicate on the dance floor and are necessary in your growth as a dancer. I think just getting familiar and comfortable with our own movement and the music is an excellent way to start social dancing, so that’s where I focus.

There are many outstanding instructors who specialize in these two aspects of dancing and I’m happy to help you find someone you like if patterns and technique are your jam 🙂